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Pansexuality is not biphobia; bisexuality is not transphobia.

The idea that pansexuality is intrinsically biphobic is ridiculous.

One of the things that pansexuality has done is emphasize that gender is not binary.

It has never said that a bisexual person is relegated to Binary interest.

Any it has simply bolstered the acceptance of trans and non-binary individuals.

Over time people have become more accepting and identify as bisexual or pansexual, but the idea that a sexual orientation developed to revolutionize the acceptance of non-binary and trans people must meet biphobic it’s just ignorant.

It took me a long time myself to be willing to identify as pansexual because I already valued the idea trans and non-binary people whoever they were. I’m an asexual who behaves pansexually. I identified as bisexual until my partner introduced asexuality to me and I realized I was ace. I only claim sexuality as a specific political statement. A lot of people that are bi still stick to the idea that gender is binary because they focus on genitalia. For me identifying with pansexual what’s the political and activist move challenging transphobia.

There is a super harmful article by bisexuality.org that is reinforcing myths about sexuality furthering the misunderstood of it political nature. A quick Google search shows more articles of the same.

That’s one of the reasons why it is important that the is invisible sexualities have visibility and education surrounding them. Because we keep propagating harmful misinformation about the creation of these ideas and labels pitting ourselves against each other in fear of being erased or misunderstood by cishet folks or GRSM people who don’t take time to learn something outside of their own identity.

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Yuletide blessings and cat presents

Every year my nesting partner and I buy our casts presents on their designated adoption days and Yule.

Yule is the big day, and I feel like once the Yule tree is decorated, they are waiting for the stocking to show up.

I may buy them an actual stocking and decorate it starting next year, collecting small toys I know they’ll like to fill it.

I’m ever reminded that I am a cat mom and these are my surrogate children.

Check out my Instagram to see my cats opening their Yule gift!

Let me know, my lover,
When I need to go, my dear.
I love you so,
but I can’t be the woman of your dreams.

Love is beautiful.
It comes in many shapes and forms.
Love is unique,
For me, there are no templates on repeat.

I’ve shed my skin,
I’ve looked within
And shattered my very core.

I won’t back down,
I can’t stop now.
I’m free.

Your amorous canvas is set,
Already painted red.
Your pigment choice is bold
Which retail selection, holiday collection
Was your inspo board?

Let’s try something new
A deconstruction tool.
No, that’s not what I mean.
Just breathe and
Take a moment to connect.

I’ll add some black, some splotches of green.
What will we create?
You try now.
Mountains sturdy and sound.
Our creation has grown.

The symbols well round,
Show our foundation.
Strong, living, allied.

Let me know, my lover,
Do I need to go, my friend?
I can love you, but not the way you dream.

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Cultural Appreciation vs Appropriation

I was sitting in the car listening to one of my guilty pleasure artists on Spotify.

You know one of the artists that have a lot of cultural appropriation backlash against them. It reminded me of a conversation I had with a white peer that boiled down to the fact that POC are not held to the same standards when ot comes to appropriation.

But as a person of color who interacts within POC spaces, specifically a Black woman with Caribbean and African orgins who happens to be a Celtic Pagan witch. I am super on this cultural Appropriation versus Appreciation shit. I call really big bull shit that we are not held to similar standards. The impact is just different.

There are real differences between Appreciating a cultural pillar and Approriating it. When you appropriate you taking it and manipulating it because you thought it was cool or because you just felt entitled to it.

Appropriation isn’t about sharing cultures or learning. Its taking something, physical or an idealogy, because you want to own it and control it.

Everyone is capable of appropriatiating another culture, however, European colonization was widespread and demolished or tainted many cutures under the banner of improvement (*cough, cough; whispers* Murder and Slavery).

Imperialistic Cultural Appropriation is often the discussion that is being referenced because it is the most predominant form of appropriation with political power rooted in that history.

Quite a few of the arguments that I see in political based discussions are due to a of lack of understanding of what discipline(s) the discussion is being held in. People actually rarely point these out outside of academia which leads to a lot of confusion in everyday political conversation. In conversations of Cultural Appropriation you need to know what disciplines you are referring to. Are you having a discussion of a sociological or anthropoligical nature? Or a discussion that is political in nature? Both are comparision based discourses, but only one has a major focus specifically referring to power imbalances in the subject at hand. Both are very related however and there are major overlaps, hence the confusion.

When you actually do research on a topic versus just relying on social media and others to teach you, you are able to truly see all the diaciplinary intersects instead of being stuck in just one view.