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Pansexuality is not biphobia; bisexuality is not transphobia.

The idea that pansexuality is intrinsically biphobic is ridiculous.

One of the things that pansexuality has done is emphasize that gender is not binary.

It has never said that a bisexual person is relegated to Binary interest.

Any it has simply bolstered the acceptance of trans and non-binary individuals.

Over time people have become more accepting and identify as bisexual or pansexual, but the idea that a sexual orientation developed to revolutionize the acceptance of non-binary and trans people must meet biphobic it’s just ignorant.

It took me a long time myself to be willing to identify as pansexual because I already valued the idea trans and non-binary people whoever they were. I’m an asexual who behaves pansexually. I identified as bisexual until my partner introduced asexuality to me and I realized I was ace. I only claim sexuality as a specific political statement. A lot of people that are bi still stick to the idea that gender is binary because they focus on genitalia. For me identifying with pansexual what’s the political and activist move challenging transphobia.

There is a super harmful article by bisexuality.org that is reinforcing myths about sexuality furthering the misunderstood of it political nature. A quick Google search shows more articles of the same.

That’s one of the reasons why it is important that the is invisible sexualities have visibility and education surrounding them. Because we keep propagating harmful misinformation about the creation of these ideas and labels pitting ourselves against each other in fear of being erased or misunderstood by cishet folks or GRSM people who don’t take time to learn something outside of their own identity.

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Yuletide blessings and cat presents

Every year my nesting partner and I buy our casts presents on their designated adoption days and Yule.

Yule is the big day, and I feel like once the Yule tree is decorated, they are waiting for the stocking to show up.

I may buy them an actual stocking and decorate it starting next year, collecting small toys I know they’ll like to fill it.

I’m ever reminded that I am a cat mom and these are my surrogate children.

Check out my Instagram to see my cats opening their Yule gift!

Let me know, my lover,
When I need to go, my dear.
I love you so,
but I can’t be the woman of your dreams.

Love is beautiful.
It comes in many shapes and forms.
Love is unique,
For me, there are no templates on repeat.

I’ve shed my skin,
I’ve looked within
And shattered my very core.

I won’t back down,
I can’t stop now.
I’m free.

Your amorous canvas is set,
Already painted red.
Your pigment choice is bold
Which retail selection, holiday collection
Was your inspo board?

Let’s try something new
A deconstruction tool.
No, that’s not what I mean.
Just breathe and
Take a moment to connect.

I’ll add some black, some splotches of green.
What will we create?
You try now.
Mountains sturdy and sound.
Our creation has grown.

The symbols well round,
Show our foundation.
Strong, living, allied.

Let me know, my lover,
Do I need to go, my friend?
I can love you, but not the way you dream.